1. It's not your job to keep the people you love happy. I know this may feel like your job and responsibility but sadly its not. Its no ones job not yours, not mine, or daddy's. The sad truth is you just cant do it anyways.
2. Your physical fearlessness is a strength. I love the way you run, jump and climb. Running through the back yard chasing the dog, jumping in each and every puddle you come across. Please dont ever stop this its a wonderful thing to see you running around carefree.
3. You should never be afraid to share your passions. Sadly this is something that I have come to learn later in life. Dont be afraid just because you think that someone might laugh at you because you love a certain sport or you love to play with barbies. Those who make fun of you are not your true friends, please dont forget this.
4. It is okay to disagree with me, and others. I didnt say argue but yes it is okay to disagree with me and others from time to time. You will have your point of view and you have the right to let me know when you think that I am wrong and to let me know why.
5. You are so very beautiful. Please dont ever forget this. Don't give in to peer pressure to change who you are and what you look like. And I know I'm a hair dresser and therefore you may feel you can get the newest look whenever you may please but PLEASEEEEE dont dye your hair for a very very long time, its beautiful the way it is and once you start you can not stop.
6. Reading is essential. Reading is essential, it expands your knowledge. Dont feel ashamed because you may like to read. Reading books can give you leisure, it lets you escape the real world for just a short moment while experiencing a whole new world.
7. You are not me. We may be alike in many ways, your daddy even says we act the same although he's not quite sure if you get it from me or I from you. But either way you are still your own person entirely and completely. I know that separation from us is a fundamental task of your adolescence, and I know its coming sooner and faster than we all think. Your dad is going to dread it and it will drive him crazy but I know that this is essential and in the end you will grow much closer to us.
8. It is almost never about you. People are going to act in ways that hurt you and make you feel insecure and it is important for you to know that when this happens 99% of the time it is because something is happening with them and its not about you nor is it your fault. This can be a hard one you may struggle with, your heart being hurt even if your head may know otherwise. Just remember people are struggling with their own problems even if they bump into you accidentally.
9. There is no single person who can be your everything. This is something that has taken me a very long time to learn, and I hope you can learn this earlier on and not follow me on this one. You have to be very careful about giving this power to any one person. You will be trying to fill a feeling of loneliness but I am here to tell you that it's just a part of life. Trying to fill it with people, food, alcohol, or other behaviors is a lost cause and will not work. Instead you will only feel let down and create more loneliness. Unfortunately it is just a part of life and we must all deal with it. Don't focus on one person instead surround yourself with many people who love you greatly. Like I said it has taken me a long time to learn this and I've had my fair share of struggles but now I have you, your dad, my mom and dad, my sister and brother, grandma and papa, and many close friends.
10. I am trying my best. I know Im not good enough and Im not your mom Ive already told you this before. I may get impatient sometimes and Im sorry. I love you more than anything in the world and I am trying my best to be a better person for you and your dad. I'll love you every single day. No matter what.
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